I'm sorry to complain about my family
because you don't have very much...
I hear this and to which I say—
Don’t be sorry.
We don’t choose our families.
They drive us crazy at points, with their actions and behaviors.
And when we have members that are dysfunctional and toxic, then all the more, we need a break.
I don’t think anyone should just suck it up and shut up, and just be thankful for their families because I don’t have anyone in my immediate family left and I have very few cousins or relatives, especially that I talk to or communicate with.
I’ve written about it before, but honestly, sometimes my life is easier this way, that they’re gone.
Sometimes it’s easier that I don’t talk to certain relatives much anymore.
Families can be communities of support; they can also be a lot of baggage.
Me being free from some family members has really helped me on my path of healing and transformation and evolution.
I am thankful that people give pause and consider what their lives would be like without family, because it’s complicated and nuanced. It’s not just one thing.
It *is* lonely and you do move through this world and live and exist differently when you are orphaned. And your only sibling is gone.
But, it also doesn’t mean that [your] family doesn’t/can’t/shouldn’t/won’t drive you bonkers sometimes as well.
I don’t know the dynamics and the intricacies of them and you, your relationships, and how challenging of people that they may be.
There is no judgment here.
Much like I am not the trauma police or trauma judge, so too do I not want to be the “are you thankful enough for your family” gage, evaluating whether or not you are sufficeintly thankful for your family because I have little family myself.
