I will add that my three daughters have not recovered from the trauma(s) associated with our broken family and sudden loss of their mother to this day. My son had made great gains through the twelve step program though. That’s the nature of trauma. There’s no telling if and when recovery and/or healing will happen.
Thank you (once again) for sharing the feelings that I find difficult to express in
the wake of a broken family (by divorce) resulting from my own alcoholism (like my dad’s) the sudden and unexpected death of my former wife in a head on collision when our children were just teens, the death of my granddaughter by cancer 7 years ago and most recently the death of my grandson by suicide this past June. While holidays are still very difficult for me, at the very least I try my best not to be the grinch for others. I do find solace and peace with the holidays by way of my relationship with God which is a direct result of the “gift” of sobriety that I’d been given nearly 34 years ago that coming New Year’s Day. 🙏
John, I'm glad that what I wrote resonated with you. That's a lot of grief, loss and trauma--I'm sure manifested in you and your children in complex grief and trauma. I'm also so humbled and grateful for the gift of sobriety. Congrats on 34 years of sobriety--New Years Day--what a wonderful sobriety date! I will pray for your children that they may too know healing in their grief and trauma. <3 Happy Holidays.
I will add that my three daughters have not recovered from the trauma(s) associated with our broken family and sudden loss of their mother to this day. My son had made great gains through the twelve step program though. That’s the nature of trauma. There’s no telling if and when recovery and/or healing will happen.
AMEN!
Thank you (once again) for sharing the feelings that I find difficult to express in
the wake of a broken family (by divorce) resulting from my own alcoholism (like my dad’s) the sudden and unexpected death of my former wife in a head on collision when our children were just teens, the death of my granddaughter by cancer 7 years ago and most recently the death of my grandson by suicide this past June. While holidays are still very difficult for me, at the very least I try my best not to be the grinch for others. I do find solace and peace with the holidays by way of my relationship with God which is a direct result of the “gift” of sobriety that I’d been given nearly 34 years ago that coming New Year’s Day. 🙏
John, I'm glad that what I wrote resonated with you. That's a lot of grief, loss and trauma--I'm sure manifested in you and your children in complex grief and trauma. I'm also so humbled and grateful for the gift of sobriety. Congrats on 34 years of sobriety--New Years Day--what a wonderful sobriety date! I will pray for your children that they may too know healing in their grief and trauma. <3 Happy Holidays.
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